Hi and Assalamualaikum

So today, I'm gonna talk about friends. We as a friend and them as our friends. Some people are blessed with real friends who never backstabbed them, while others aren't. It's not a thing we call luck, it's a rizq that God bless us with and for us to be grateful for. All praises to God, I have a very small circle of friends that I still have to trust to. To be honest, I do really appreciate them and they are mostly from my childhood friends. I now realize the fact that the older you are, the smaller circle of favourite and trusted people you met. I have such good girlfriends from my kindergarten up to primary and secondary schools that I trusted the most that I could spend most of my time with them especially during the semester breaks. I am that kind of person who prioritises my family and friends above everything that benefits myself. I like to be friends with everyone but I don't easily put trust in someone. In my journey, there always be that one or two friends that dare my patience. There is this one friend who I intentionally lied to her saying that I currently in a relationship with someone and to my surprise, she didn't happy for that relationship I lied to her. She was like staying away from me and just be selfish to herself. But once I told her that I'd already broken up with my imaginary boyfriend, she was so happy and that was the day I realize that she cannot accept the fact that I'm happy with someone while she's not. How can a friend happy to her friend's parting away in a relationship? From that, I know that she'd been jealous of me and treat me as a competitor that I thought shouldn't exist in an honest friendship. Sometimes, test your friend to know how sincere they are to the friendship you built. I hate fake friends.

Thus, what are friends for? Only for fun, gossiping, educational intentions or maybe just to be backstabbed? Oopsss, pardon! So as for me, friends are allowed to come and go as they pleased but always there to spare some of their time to consult, support and console you in your ups and downs. I am not a friend who needs 24/7 attention and updates from my girls. However, whenever we need each other we just have to start greeting in the WhatsApp group so that they know their roles. Most importantly, don't put high expectations on your friends. We are humans, we are never perfect. So, in order for you to keep the bonds right, make sure to always and always be considerate. You are no one without friends. Find your reflections well. We need each other to make things right at their place. 

To be caution, dear readers, it is true to trust your friends in order to maintain a good relationship but there is also no wrong to always think wise so that you will not be one of those backstabbed victim to your friend. Nauzubillah. Some friends only take advantage of you. They used your kindness and honesty towards them just to make them benefits thing we don't even realize. That is what we called 'friends for benefits' (FFB). I hate that kind of people who always think they are clever enough to deceive people. Thus, I hope everyone who is reading this can have at least that one friend that we can rely on in any situations we are facing at that time. In whatever situations always make yourself as your own friend because you are that number one person who understands you. Anyway, if you haven't found your true friend, don't hesitate to find one and to pray for the best friend to support you throughout your life journey. May everything is good for us and everyone.

Much love,

T